narcissists red flags
Once you are in a relationship with a narcissist or we were discarded, or we broke it off, we will most likely be wondering what red flags there were and what was missed. If you have been recently discarded, you are probably feeling a lot of pain and never want to go through this again and wonder how to prevent it by knowing the red flags. You might also be feeling fear to stay away from romantic relationships, with the fear to repeat this pattern again. With this knowledge it can aid in healing to eventually be ready for another more healthy relationship and to increase the awareness of these red flags.
In this article we will go deeper into the red flags to watch out for. A narcissistic person cannot play out their power dynamics unless they have someone to trust, believe, and follow them. They enjoy negative or positive supply. Narcβs are on a spectrum and are often either more overt or covert.
Letβs dive right in, these are the top red flags:Β
Future faking. They will display their true colors when asked to clarify what they mean by telling you their future plans with you.
WHY & HOW: One day they tell you they want to have kids with you, the next time youβre in an argument, they say, βItβs a good thing I never want to have kids with you anyways!βΒ
Even though the argument had nothing to do with kids or anything about the future. You are thrown off and it changes the disagreement to have a new focus on why they will say something untrue, cruel, and that makes no sense. They will in turn gain negative fuel supply from you.
You might randomly mention a mutual friends wedding you both attended, “Oh, I loved their wedding.
External Validation. They want validation from others yet do not want to give it back.
WHY & HOW: If they do give you a compliment they will be waiting for you to say something nice back. If you ask them for a compliment, they say something along the lines of, βI like it when you are (XYZ) caring after me (it is all about what you do for them), in those times you are actually caring (backhanded compliment)…β
They respond, “Don’t get any ideas! You need to make more money first…how will we pay for that…”
Although you both have talked about getting married in multiple conversations.
You are left to wonder, what does this really mean? Do they know you, or only care about what you can offer them?
Is this a transactional relationship? By the way…yes it is, will be. Then they will expect and ask for tons of compliments from you. Also, needing constant validation from their social media, being on their phone constantly.Β
You may think the solution to this is to always validate them…they might have told you their love language is “words of affirmation.” There will NEVER be enough validation any one person can give them. After many times of them insulting you, then asking for nice, kind, affirmative words from you in the same sentence, most likely you will grow tired and exhausted of giving without receiving anything but NEGATIVITY back.
No matter how much validation one person gives, it will NEVER be enough, they will always be looking for a higher supply source or more validation, most likely from social media.
A typical Narc’s instagram, for example, will be riddled with ‘porn-like’ profiles, and often much younger women then them, when these women like their photos this will be validation. Or if they can flirt with them in some way through conversations. The ironic part is they might be the kind of person who wants you to dress modestly and act respectfully on social media and in public, although they are condoning acting in a COMPLETELY different way by interacting with these kinds of profiles online.
It is all about external validation…
You will most likely see some extremely ODD behaviors with their social media that DO NOT match their words or who you THOUGHT they were.
Unfortunately there needs to always be a constant stream of validation from the outside world.
Β THEY LACK EMPATHY. Yet might be faking empathy and can emulate empathy, especially in the beginning in the love bombing phase.
WHY & HOW: They do not actually want to hear about you day, and will not be happy if you are having an off day or are sick. You will not be βallowedβ to have off days. Your soul purpose.Β
This is one of the biggest factors in understanding if someone has narc tendencies or not.Β
Also, one of the most dangerous tendencies for someone to have, this leads to cheating, deception with money, control & power dynamics, the ability to purposely hurt someone with no remorse, rude to people they see as beneath them in society such as elderly, women and children. They will prefer to perceive everyone as objects.
When you start talking about your day, you may get silence on the other end of the phone. You ask, βAre you there?β They say, βOh ya, here.β You ask, βDid you hear me?β They say, βOh, ya, I heard you, driving.β If you all are not talking about them, they will zone out.
Annoyed by someone sharing their feelings.
WHY & HOW: They will call you all kinds of names for sharing your true feelings. You are supposed to keep those to yourself. The more βcrazy/insistentβ you become aiming to have them truly hear you, they will say, βEveryone knows you are crazy, my family told me that too, I should have listened. All women are crazy too.β
Do not let yourself get ‘crazy’ because they are not listening, leave the situation, it is not worth it.
It is painful. Yet the best way to handle if someone is having an unhealthy response to you sharing your feelings is to practice the ‘grey rock method,’ this method means you respond instead of react.Β
If you share your feelings and someone goes into a rant about why you shouldn’t feel this way, or how ’emotional’ you are, all to divert the topic or push your buttons, the best response is to say something along the lines of, “Oh, that’s interesting you feel this way.” or “Thanks for sharing that with me.”
Hence, no emotional reaction, no emotions. Let it go in the moment. This is especially helpful if you continue to stay in a relationship with a person with NPD.
If it’s not about them, then they don’t want to hear it.
Refuse to acknowledge the feelings of others, and might mock others for having feelings. Calling them names and making accusations, such as βsnowflakeβ, βdramaticβ, or βyou always make a huge deal out of everything.βΒ
WHY & HOW: When they understand your true feelings about something, they will often make a snarky comment about it, then say, βI was just joking,β or βgod you are so sensitive!β When you know for sure they were not joking. You are left to wonder how much of the joke was actually true.Β
Having our feelings invalidated creates low self-esteem over time. Eventually we are left to distrust ourselves and this is meant to turn you to this person for ALL validation of your ideas to be only their ideas.
Can use sexual prowess to hook others in.Β
WHY & HOW: They will often rush into sex, and aiming to get you hooked in before the mask slips.
They do not like others who they perceive as truly confident. They will aim to knock them down somehow.
WHY & HOW: Ever been to a party with your Narc, to leave and all they can talk about is that one person…They go on for hours about, “who does she/he thinks she is…they are just a (XYZ)…”Β
They donβt like healthy people, period. Anything they can do to knock a person down that seems healthy they will do it or say it. Except when you leave a party or an event how they will immediately find the confident person to talk badly about, and the next person they will target is you, your confidence will be destroyed by them over time.
Healthy people with great boundaries are the best repellent of Narcs.
They do not like it when their partner is happy, truly happy.Β
WHY & HOW: This is one of the most hurtful things to admit from a non-narc point of view. We desperately want our partners to support us as much as we support and are happy for them and their achievements.
We sometimes gloss over this because we believe a person who truly loved us would be happy for us.
If you really dig deeply though you will most likely notice a pattern with these kinds of relationships, to where when you were happy, something happen to bring you ‘back down to Earth,’ by the Narc.
When you are happy from something that happen at work, with friends, or in general…they will listen (after the love bombing stage), then they will either be silent (acting as if they didnβt hear you), act distracted (on their phone maybe), or mumble something like βoh wow,β (sarcastically), or say something about how they achieved success at work too today, if they donβt want to listen they will start a petty argument to direct the attention back to them.
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Ultimately, they cannot be truly happy for you because it would mean you are no longer beneath them.
Everything is a competition, if you are happy about achieving something they internally feel as though they needed to achieve more than you, or anyone else.
Strangely, it might be something they never thought about achieving and this leads the other party to be deeply confused.Β
An example of this can be, you say to them, “Wow I’m so happy with my new position as Team Lead of this Tech Project…”
When there is silence, or a blank stare from them you ask, “Aren’t you happy for me, aren’t you proud?”
They respond, with a blank, deathly stare, plus a smirk on their face, “Ha, me proud, it’s not like you’re a millionaire yet, you are acting like you are amazing or something! I could get an engineer job tomorrow if I wanted to.”
You’re dumbfounded, this person is not an engineer, and has never shown interest in ever becoming one.
With this kind of comment it throws someone off. It ruins happiness in the moment. It is unsupportive and demeaning.
We ultimately want our partners to support us and be proud of us and want us to be happy.
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Act as if they are interested in the same things as you are.Β
WHY & HOW: They almost seem to be the same person as you with very slight differences.
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Especially in the beginning…you might find yourself saying, βOh my gosh, itβs like we are the same person. Am I dating me?β
His is on purpose, to make you fall hook line and sinker for yourself, to fall in love with yourself, with the mirror, because they donβt have a real self.Β
Β If a Narc has multiple relationships, they might be a vegetarian with one, a meat eater with another, and in general whatever they feel they need to be enough to secure the supply of grade A fuel source.Β
If you are no longer with the Narc, you might see them later with a woman who is absolutely nothing like you, and if you talked with this woman they would know a completely different version of this person.
Please take this into consideration when you see them with a new person and you wonder WHY ON BLOODY EARTH this person is with her…
Before throwing stones, stop for a second and understand they are disconnected from their true self. When you fell in love, you fell in love with a mask, and sometimes a mirror of yourself. This new woman is feeling the same way and hopefully will eventually see the cracks in the mask and the real them, the poison you saw.
Have faith she will see the evilness sooner than later. Let go of resentment, and better yet wish her the best, to escape as soon as she can.
This is because they are void of a real self. Somewhere along the way they disconnected from their true self. They do not want to look inward.
They will tend to agree with everything you say in the beginning.
WHY & HOW: This is in the love bombing stage, they say what is needed, future-fake & faking empathy…you will believe they are the angel God has sent down for you. You start to believe you have a lot in common, and enjoy all the same things.
They act like they are really into you! REALLY into you!
WHY & HOW: They want to see you everyday, and if you take a break to have alone time or be with your loved ones.
At first you may feel, ‘wow how romantic.’ Then you start to realize this person WANTS all of your time.
Use secrets against you.Β
WHY & HOW: At the beginning of the relationship they are getting you to reveal something personal, and when they are losing an argument, they will bring it up out of nowhere. Using what you told them against you.
This is especially hurtful because you told them something in confidence. They will also tell their flying monkeys, and extremely over exaggerate the truth of what you said.
Always have to be one- up on you or others.
WHY & HOW: They need to believe they are always a few steps ahead of you or others. They will not be happy for your success. Anytime you are up they need to pull you down. They always need to win.
They make a smear campaign about you towards the middle of the relationship.
WHY & HOW: They might tell their family they helped you a lot to make more money and that youβre just not that successful, even if you make more money than them. The smear campaign will have started WAY before the discard or the break-up…because they want to make sure they can say, ‘Ya well, we all knew she was crazy…’. Everything is about saving face and keeping the mask in tact for them.
They have a lot of rage, envy, jealous of people in their inner circle.
WHY & HOW: They notice other’s cars, houses, or material things and they talk about how they will have that one day, or talk dirty about those people.
They will always be jealous of your success, even if they sometimes encourage you to succeed it will only be to help them have a better life.
They only will be nice when you are offering them something they want.
WHY & HOW: Examine what they do, say, or how they treat someone who cannot give them anything. This is also why you see them act the meanest when they are about to discard someone and they have secured new sources, or sources. The mask falls off when the person can give them nothing in return.
They want to have full control.
WHY & HOW: They want you to delete your past, and know where you are at all times! They might start telling you how to dress, who to be friends with, how much make-up to wear, which jewelry to wear…
They slowly infect your friendships, further isolating you.
WHY & HOW: They will find everything wrong with your friends and aim to isolate you in order to have more of your attention. Pay attention to their friends, they will be WAY less βperfectβ than yours, they will have their flaws. If you bring up flaws about their friends, they will be harsh on you, making personal accusations about you if needed.
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They have a sole purpose to get all of your attention, time, and often money.
WHY & HOW: Are you noticing that when you do things for you or with others they aim to make a small argument to get your attention. All of the sudden they are upset and wanting to take all of your time away from what you are doing and give it to them. They see your success as ONLY there to benefit them, with money.
They often act kind to strangers and cruel to loved one when no one is around.
WHY & HOW: You start to want to be around strangers, their family or yours because they act completely different around them, not wanting others to see them without their mask on.
This has a purpose, to not expose their true self to the outside world, therefore it will look like you are βthe crazy one,β whenever you speak out about the abuse from them later. The covert narcs tend to be quiet, reserved, shy, serious, seemingly nice guy vibe; the overt tend to be outgoing, talkative, confident, seemingly successful got it together guy.
They have indifference towards people in their inner circle, and see them as objects.
WHY & HOW: When you get into an argument with them, you may see a weird indifference as if you didnβt matter to them at all.
They are capable of saying and doing things, that make you shake your head and wonder how a person who says they love me can do or say this.
They do not bond emotionally in a healthy way with anyone in their lives, therefore there is a bond they donβt mind to easily break with you.
For any little thing, they can break the bond, and be onto another supply while giving you the silent treatment. They hope when they come back from the stone-walling or silent treatment you will have learned your lesson.
They can treat you as they have no bond to you at all.
WHY & HOW: Threatening to divorce you or break up, they will actually follow through when they think they have a new better supply because they ultimately see you as an object they do not actually have a real bond with you, as you do them. – Remember, the person who cares the least in a relationship often has the most power… this phrase describes a narcβs relationship philosophy, they have to have power.
Often abuse people and then tell them, βlook what I do for you.’ You are so ungrateful.
Then they say something like, “Well if you are going to be ungrateful, I wonβt do anything at all for you then.”
WHY & HOW: They do not want to hear any feedback or need to reflect on how to improve themselves, this will make them need to look at their inner self and they donβt want this! Saying, βHey when you said xyz it really hurt meβ¦βΒ
They will say, βOh, sure! Well, you said xyz last year too, and this relationship is starting to feel one-sided. You know what!!?? Iβm leaving the house, do whatever you want. I do so much for you, and you only focus on this!βΒ
Do not want others to feel they have any power in the relationship.
WHY & HOW: Their goal is to have you beneath them to gain the supply from you, giving them the false sense of self-worth.
Use guilt and shame as weapons.
WHY & HOW: Use personal information about you to make you feel bad, and eventually do the thing they are asking you for.
Discard or seek to annihilate you when you no longer want to give them their supply, when you’re onto them.
WHY & HOW: You are no longer valuable to them if you are not giving ample supply.
In court they will draw out the case, wasting away your money, and they will lie about accounts you have made against them. With no regard to your money, time, or emotions.
WHY & HOW: We have heard many times, you do NOT want to be in court with a Narc. They will fabricate whatever needs to be said in order to get custody of their kids, even if they could care less about being a caregiver. If they think their kids will be an endless narcissistic supply and they will win against you, they will stop at NO END to achieve this. They will have their flying monkeys convinced they need those kids, or you were the βcrazy oneβ and they need to take all your money. They will aim to convince everyone how they are the victim and how they didnβt deserve your βhorrible treatment.β Expect lies.
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They will do anything to aim to prove they are in control of the breakup. It will most likely be a discard not a final discard.
WHY & HOW: They usually will act as if they could care less if they breakup or not. By the time you all are in the devalue stage they might threaten breaking up to play power games and push pull. They will do everything in their power to prevent being abandoned, and be the one who abandons first.
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They will make up lies to show everyone you are the crazy one.
WHY & HOW: They will say, βThe other day when I was talking to my mom about what you said to me, she said, βWell, maybe you were just tired.β They want validation for horrible behavior and they will seek out people to enable them by making excuses for them. They will get their flying monkeys on their side WAY before they decide to discard you. You wonβt ever truly know what they said about you, and you will wonder constantly what lies they said.
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Tend to be flirty with the opposite sex, and accuse you of being insecure if you call them out on.
WHY & HOW: They make frequent eye contact with another person of the opposite sex. When you bring it up when alone with them they say, βWow I had no idea you were so jealous, I wasnβt even looking at that person I was looking into the abyss. Do you expect me to look at you the whole time weβre on a date, or what? No idea what you are talking about. Jealous much?β
They believe they are better, smarter, more attractive, more successful than everyone.Β
WHY & HOW: They say, βToday at work I was asked to present a project, everyone was eager to hear from me.β
Often make excuses for horrible behavior, dismissing your feelings, minimizing your thoughts.
WHY & HOW: If they do say sorry, it will be something like, βsorry I hurt you, if you only wouldnβt always have an attitude with me, I donβt think I can handle your attitude for much longerβ¦β
You feel insecure and jealous when you donβt normally feel this way in relationships.
WHY & HOW: You feel insecure and you donβt quite know why, you donβt feel as good about yourself now, as you did before you got into the relationship. You have always been able to easily talk things through with other partners, now you’re afraid to bring things up because of them getting angry or hypercritical.
You think you can never win with this person. It is never enough. You feel unmotivated to do anything around this person.
WHY & HOW: When you guys are cooking together youβre afraid of cutting vegetables correctly. You stop wanting to share things with them.
You always feel the need to be careful of how you say things around them, yet they do not seem to think things through before they tell you things.
WHY & HOW: They display being extremely thin-skinned and sensitive to your words, then in the next breath tell you something hypercritical with no remorse. This is often called ‘gas-lighting,’ in making everything your fault.
You have been exposed to masterful TRIANGULATION.
WHY & HOW: This is to always keep you on guard and aiming to ‘prove’ yourself worthy. An example, they say, “My Aunt words 70 hours a week, why are you tired?”
You might be thinking, ‘well, I have a right to be tired sometimes, how about be supportive of me, and I’m not your Aunt.’
They are thinking, ‘how can I extract more from this person.’
They will like to see you jumping through hoops for them.
Even if you stay and jump through every hoop, climb over every bar they set, they will only come back to create more hoops and raise the bars…It will never be good enough.
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The biggest red flag is them having NO EMPATHY.
We must learn to attract people who can mirror our worth back to us.Β
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The narc did this to me for years. Talked badly about me behind my back to family members. When I would get mad at the narc, I had no one to talk to. They already had a negative view of me before I ever approached them. Creepy.
P.S. Amen, thank you Empire Life!
They are 25 steps ahead of us. Triangulating is apart of them making us look nuts and like were the narcissist.
I’m over here just mindin’ my business then… “Minding your own business…and here comes the smear campaign!!”
Avoid all triangles ( head games) relationships are fine when it’s one on one….A game player will always.
My ex once told me that βeverybody I talked to, says You are wrongβ canβt remember what I was wrong about, but this was just one obvious example of that type of behavior…
I could pick up on the “fake empathy” at the beginning…I wish I knew what I know now before I fell for the bait.
Thank you so much for helping me to see that being painted as the narcissist was actually part of the triangulation.
We got in a ridiculous argument right before my family came to visit. When they showed up, she was a perfect angel and doted on me like everything was fine – I was happy that my family got to see us doing well together. She had to work, so I saw the family off and waited for her to come home – again, I was happy that she had a change of heart and loved me again. 5pm, she walks through the door and immediately goes into tyrant mode – starts another ridiculous argument and we haven’t talked now for a month and a half.
I had rather be alone than to live a lie.
I dumped him in the devalue stage before he could discard. The dreams were for months! Then sporadic. They are DEMONS! This is how they stopped……my prayers to Christ Jesus were the last thing on my lips as I fell asleep. Ask Jesus to protect you while your sleeping,
These are all βpredatorsβ whom have these βdisordersβ!
Narcissist are the only people i know who will lie to you about yourself and then expects you to believe it. They make you anything they need you to be in their own mind, at the time, at anytime, to justify their own needs and actions.
Actually there is no dreaming while sleeping only nightmares while awake during any interaction with a narcissist.
Yes! My gut always was warning me. Didn’t listen. Now, I will always listen.
they dont care that YOUR cheating on them, they care that your giving what they consider theirs to someone else.
Don’t join dating sites that’s where they are dating sites are perfect for abundance of new supply.
I finally did the full block last night.
It is incredible the anger I see on his face when he sees me happy…it is scary.
He text me asking if I texted him. I didnβt respond. I blocked him.
It’s true they don’t care about marriage. Mine was engaged and still tried to hit me up. They want their cake and eat it too. No loyalty, no conscience. They are horrible people.
I canβt be around humans with no personality!
“They will respect you if you put up boundaries, but they will leave you”. Such a timely flipping comment for me….I have been saying quietly to myself, “I would rather be respected than liked.”
They lie all the time and their lives depend on the lies as a life line.
I left him last night. He said to me β you havenβt met the devil yetβ….the look he gave me when he walked out the door I will never forget Iβm hurting so much but at the same time I feel relieved.
I love that you mention the evil stare. This is something that replays over and over in my memory. That moment he had that cocky, arrogant, cold, and smirky look on his face as he laughed at my pain and gave me such an evil glare. It was so freaky the look in his eyes. I will never forget it.
Narcs don’t really want you back. They don’t wanna see you happy. They just want backup supply so that they can keep you as miserable as they are.
Removing a malignant tumor doesn’t leave a “void” it brings healing.
Not being hoovered is a compliment! It means youβve grown and youβre too strong for them to prey on.
The only person you need back in your life is your old self.
I am happier alone than I ever was with him.
Disclosure: you don’t want the narc to want you back ,you want them to go away!
I bought myself a Dyson, I don’t need any more hoovers.
Itβs been 3 months since he discarded me and I can finally sleep peacefully through the night, without waking up 3-4 times a night wondering what heβs up to. Iβve been doing self work, eating healthy and working out. He stalks my social media accounts and I can tell it frustrates him that Iβm living happily without any closure from him.
Why in the world would you want them to want you back? If you get free run like hell away from them. Never ever go back!!!! Never!
Omg he has a stare!!! Its like the devil himself is looking at you.
If I never date again Iβm ok. Perfectly happy alone with myself.
Get a puppy instead….please…there is no happy ending with a narcissist.
We need a retreat with all empaths who have lived through this nightmare. A safe place with no narcissists allowed. I think it would be great just to connect with people that actually are genuine.
They will suddenly want you back when they see your success / money.
When you want someone to come back just so that you can reject them.
Funny it takes being in a relationship with a narcissist to learn to love your own company & not fill a void with people.
Parental Alienation is the worst, most damaging version of triangulation.
Let me share a positive experience that might help those who are still struggling with the deep pain and shame of a narcissist and you wonder if you will ever get better. You will learn and you will get better even if you make a mistake in the midst of your growth.
I donβt give him supply I wanted to divorce but he did not agree.:(
Thank you so much for laying that out.
Holy cow, it’s making more sense every time I hear and listen to U. Thx
I wish I had seen this years ago because my family just thought he was a nice guy and he was until his neurological illness started where he became very narcissistic and wore a mask more and more. He would blatantly lie to many people and my family couldnβt understand why I seemed upset with him more and more.
And my take.
NARCs move fast, pretend to be a great match, play victim and never are honest.
All of this was my mother.
Heal yourself and start enjoying the normal people and honest compliments around yourself because believe me after 15 yrs of abuse you feel like you are out of jail and recovery can be difficult but realize that you are going to get better and everyday without your narc is a progress.
Why does my narc husband does not discard me
Can a narcissist pretend to have empathy as my ex would seem to have empathy in regards to my past but when he would do hurtful things the empathy would be nowhere to be found.
So much truth!
Can a therapist be NPD?
To be fair, I say “wait, what?!” A LOT in my daily life.
Not to mention a lot of covert narcissists are not so grandiose.
Sometimes, the “ongoing pattern of lying” that they deploy (usually a covert narcissist) can simply be the lies they tell the victim in the form of criticism, shaming, blaming, or humiliation. They want you to believe the lies in order to weaken you. They systematically gain control over you with each lie.
One thing I’d like to address, however, is the comment about the boyfriend that just had to say something or he’d “forget.” While I agree that that is very annoying, there might be another explanation: ADHD. I have ADHD, and I have a lot of trouble interrupting because when we want to make a point but we have to wait our turn, the pressure to get it out before you forget is pretty intense…
Oh the ONE UP GAME!!!!…this is a never ending game with a particular family member….pppfff
I had a narcissist husband and now a narcissist boyfriend. I’ve been called crazy by both. My ex husband would tell me oh you’re depressed, you need help. My boyfriend now tells me you’re psycho, you’re chemically imbalanced, you need help, and no wonder why you ex had so many problems with you.
You can connect with them, but not in a deeper way. Because “they” have not that “Genes” – as you say. They come and go anyway at maybe one point, and sometimes they show it so harsh, and you feel they turned around, that we can`t understand why. And there isn’t no why. Because the other way around, they wouldn’t except it and they leave.
I’ve had a few boyfs that I was convinced were narcs..searching for someone nice and being careful now. But, what happens when you meet someone you think is an empath and they are pulled away from you by another or other narc(s)?
Sometimes he has this enlightenment moments where he seams to be a good person or that he realizes that he is wrong is this a form of manipulation or narcissist can actually have some moments of light? Or maybe is because he is not a narcissist? Thank you!
Are narcs born or made or both?
Spot on. This gal knows.
Best wishes everyone
I just recently but up a boundary with a an ex that has been with me for a very long time. She attacked me with negative slurs. I have blocked her from texting me and not sure what to do about social media. I do not want to flame the fire and I really just want her to go live her life and leave me alone. I was kind and said hey I feel the friendship has reached it’s peak and it is time to move on. No hard feelings and I wish her the best….she then attacked me and said horrible things.
They act like the relationship is a competition.
They are not able to even give you a compliment when you look nice or do something amazing…
They just see the flows on everything you do, wear or even achieve.
When you achieve something they let you know that that is no a big deal because they achieve something bigger.
“They have to bring you down” Ever experienced again will be unmistakable. Quick & decisively.
And if them seem strange and not like normal people you know thatβs a big clue.
Thank you for helping me to put a label to the type of person I was married to for 25 years.
i got discarded right as i stood up to her ( and shes a lawyer for a big city).
Ive heard the traits a million times, but you nailed examples of dialogue that exemplify what it looks like and sounds like in real life…
They lie about having had a vasectomy too!
Ultimate sign of a narcissist, even covert ones.
Thank you, I needed this today…. oh God Damn how I needed this…. I refuse to regress.
Mine triangulated me with other women to make me jealous, because of his deep insecurities…Then he called me jealous..I didnβt see it at first…HOWEVER, it backfired on him eventually…because I saw through it and now IM DONE
Sounds like ex hairstylist friend from Africa.
Bless you. This speaks to my soul.
My theory now is that all these terms like “toxic masculinity” and “social justice” are just to glaze over the actual roots of this stuff which is narcissism.
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Just experienced a triangulation Narcissist on FB, finally unfriend him and blocked him.
My mom does it with me and my sisters….no contact now for a while….it’s tough….my mother is ill…she must live in constant fear I expose her…..she has now joined my gym….clearly to get a reaction…..she will get no more supply from me.
The more I healed from co dependency, the more my ‘mother’ could not be bothered with me. Last week I held her accountable again and would not just let it go which is what she wants, and she discarded me saying “I wish you well and will not bother you again”. All because I expressed that her not believing me made me feel angry and hurt!
Youβre amazing and have got me through some tough times with my exNarc
This is weird what you said about Narcissist needing people pleasers who lack bounders because I know I am a people pleaser and struggle with bounders.
They never take accountability for anything.
They lie about almost everything.
They gaslight … making you question your sanity and reality.
“when the smear campaign starts you feel like you just swallowed a grenade.”
Thank you so much! I felt like you were reading my life, soul and mind.
Those that end up in relationships with narcissists are often the ones that get cited as having an “anger problem.” One of the skills we learn with experience is to not endlessly offer sacrifices and efforts for someone who clearly has no interest in being willfully truthful in a reciprocal manner.
Narcissist mothers are the worst! Toughest spot being in. So when they turn the whole family on you.
Youβre a beautiful soul.
I always had low self esteem as a result of growing up in a dysfunctional family. My husband knew that but still he gaslighted and used triangulation with me. He always praised others again and again just to hurt me. Compared me with every women in the family.
This has been very clarifying and helpful. Makes so much sense, and I appreciate the compassionate view. Thank you very much.
I moved 3 thousand miles to get away. Best decision I ever made!
Thank you so much for your blogs.
Yet they expect ‘your undivided loyalty!
They will keep your number and name with the others they have had if they want you for sexual gratification or other thing and will not care if you are involved with someone.
I love your energy. These people are sick! I must practice self care and self preservation.
Thank you for sharing this!
Peace & Love to U!
Sounds like my whole family!
Women today are in a double bind. We are told we must keep up our looks and that we are valueless if we don’t have a man, but also tragic spinsters if we are single. It’s easy to attract the wrong men, even easier when women are at a more vulnerable age where they might believe they have limited options. Presentation is very important as we age.
Wow. I had the same experience with my mother and other members of my familyβs: they were shaming me, putting me down, treating me as an abject/doormat, ordering me around, not allowing me to have my own identity, determining what I should think, do and say (even many years into adulthood).
Thank you. I really appreciated this. It was just what I needed to hear today. bliss and love.
If you have an inkling at the jump, you can strategize to minimize damage. Thatβs not what I did… but now I can spot this behavior from miles away!
Can narcissists be cured?
Gods give their time Karma soon just wait wisdom is needed. thank u kept in mind were done.
Thank you for all this information. It is probably the scariest thing to live with a person who is like this. How does narcissist form? Childhood trauma?
They attract or search for the weak/hurt!! If u are damaged goods/codependant u cant see these behaviours cause they manipulate u, SPOT ON, ive been here & had no idea, but kills being with an emotionally detatched man……oh yes such CHARMERS/CHARISMATIC!!! OMG YES NO EMPATHY!!
What really baffles me is someone who has very low self esteem and treats everyone like theyβre trash. It doesnβt quite fit the mold of narcissism with the low self esteem, does it?
Fake empathy…it’s amazing how well they’ve learned the words, but when they say them you don’t feel it. For a long time I attempted to convince myself that there must be something wrong with ME because she was saying the right words.
The self absorption is pathological they just think of themselves.
Cognitive dissonance is so prevalent in my mind in the healing process.
“Healthy people are able to go there and heal their shame.”
Holy hell, just about a 1/2 of the way through that is definitely my ex. I did notice some things a few months before last Christmas and brought everything up the day after because I couldn’t hold anything in anymore.
Narcs know what they are doing and they don’t care.
Yes they definitely make you fill less safe.
Forgive yourself #1.they are demons.and butt wipes.
These people are evil. Avoid at all cost.
Narcs can sometimes fake empathy by acting concerned or crying or whatever but in my experience it seems weird and sometimes over the top.
When we feel alone: we are not missing the narcissist. We are missing the part of OURSELVES that we abandoned while trying to love the narc!
You know what the NARC taught me? Is how to be ALONE and enjoy me!
My Narc runs a harem of women on the internet. I found out, confronted him, crushed his ego and did the full block. Iβd rather be alone for the rest of my life than to be crushed to pieces like that again.
THEY HOOVER ALWAYS…they sometimes just donβt let you know.
I just ended it with a narc. So, I’m trying to detach from emotion and stay rational. I think it is like moments of waves. I’m pretty good most of the time, then a sudden wave of desperation hits me and I’m checking my blocked messages to see if he will suddenly come to his senses, but he rarely hovers me. I act emotionless, but inside I die. I know he is no good. I will stay strong.
βThey left with the wounds open. They do that on purpose so that they can eventually come back and heal those woundsβ… just wow!
No contact. stay away glad he’s gone.i rather be alone and love myself call self respect.
Iβd rather be alone doing whatever I want than to be with the narcissist doing whatever he wants.
I literally just started growing out of my nightmares that had lasted me a couple years. Sadly…
I waited 3 years for my nacr to come back. Now that he is back, of course he is blaming me for kicking me out of his house so he could get back with his ex. He said “why didn’t you tell me no and to stop it”. I’m literally sick to my stomach thinking about him. Thank you saying its an addiction! It is! I’m cutting myself loose today! I can’t do this to myself another day!
I would rather be with myself, the narc doesn’t care how you feel or what you think. Narc only care about themselves and what you can do for them.
My dreams my Narc just started.
When I first met my narc I couldnβt believe how it tried to turn things around on me. I then read up on personality disorders and found this channel. I always knew what it was up-to and stupidly I would play along because it fed me good sex. I do miss itβs funny side. It made me laugh but I could never trust it.
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I left the state my Narc was in, divorced and blocked him from everything. He better forget my name, number, AND what I look like. Forget I ever existed, move on to your next target, and leave me alone…
I had dreams and in one dream he was wearing a mask! This was from God to warn me I believe because I had not studied narcissism at that time.
Smear is always with a narcissist.
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For so many years it’s been the same bs and I can’t talk about my situation to anybody.
I feel like it’s the only type of relationship I’ve known…
15 years and I still have nightmares about him.
He used to smoke weed n was a recovering drug addict. Prob still one but who knows! Anyway, when I broke up with him in about 5 hours…he had a 22 yo girl at his house n I happened to drop by…he hated that I used to set boundaries. He liked the younger ones cos they never questioned his behaviour.
Three weeks into no contact, have nightmares/stress dreams about my narc almost every night. Hopefully this goes away soon.
Mine lets me go temporarily then waits until the holidays, just wants to greet me, then the pain starts again. Now I understand so praying I won’t let it happen ever again. Yes, knowledge is power. Thank you for helping us!
Thank you, really needed this today.
We need more movies on this subject!! Even though there has been some!! This subject is SO IMPORTANT!
Therapy is their access to figure out how you are vulnerable, so they can later use that against you, and once they find your weak point, of what you need, then it’s game over, no more therapy. Such a no-win strategy to life.
Manipulative people do so out of a fear of lacking control in their lives.
My freaking ex to a tee! God I’m so glad he finally got the message through my silence that I’m never talking to him again!
Every point that you made was 100% on target! Good job.
Happy being single with my interests, family, and few close friends! Life is great!!
Peace, Joy, and Love to everyone!!
Thanks for all the great information.
5 years of loving him. He took $20k. Ordered me to give more and then blocked me. I am struggling emotionally. Thank you for your kindness.
Yeah, I think we empath are their prime target. Cruel very evil cunning people. So handsome what a lie.
Even when you think the narcissist got over you and moved on, in many cases they are still monitoring you. There are flying monkeys out there watching and observing your every move. The narcissist will use every bit of information on you to concoct a plan to get you back. This is why it is best to never share too much details about you to random strangers because you never know whoβs hands they will fall into and how it will be used against you. Be careful.
My narcissist is my young children’s father. It is so hard cause every-time I make contact about the kids he tries to be sexual and I after 15 years have finally become strong enough to tell him no. I just hope when I come face to face again he doesn’t hover me.
Heard this from Jay Shetty. “You can tell how happy you are, when you are by yourself.”
It began very quickly
I noticed he had a temper, well temper was an understatement.
I used to be a free girl.
The first day I witnessed the all consuming rage he went red and screamed that I had left to go around the block and I must have gone out to see a man.
From there on I stayed at his side a quiet little mouse. I tried to behave and brushed it off as jealousy.
The fights happened more regularly. It seemed he was always unhappy. I was constantly living with the fear of being kicked out of the house looming over my head
βitβs my world you just live in it” and he really ment it. Everyday I followed him as his dog. Turning over as a sex doll so he could be behaved for the day. I was punished regularly by silent treatments and told no I wasnβt right, I wasnβt experiencing what I was experiencing.
I knew he was insecure but this was deeper a psychotic need to make me pay. Build me up and break me down. Like a possessed toddler he had to get his way.
I felt suicidal the most times I have ever in my life. I approached him time and time again and pleaded we could go back to the façade of the real him. This was false. The demon lurking beneath was the authentic being.
I saw he was not at his motherβs as he claimed and it all made sense. I was dealing with something subhuman. A shell of a man. An animal with an incessant need to WIN.
I needed this information. These narcs are scary. And, yes so many out there and is why I stay single.
But this knowledge has given me the tools to keep moving on. Everything youβve said that they do is accurate.
I had dreams and so did my children. They have subsided, mostly gone. I meditated, listened to binural beats for healing – sometimes played all night. My faith plays a big part too. It took about 12 months for me. I went from nightmares, to no dreams, to normal dreaming again. It will get better.
My ex narc once told me if I wanted to stray, I would need his permission first. Can you imagine the shock of hearing this? These people are so weird. The strangest people I’ve ever encountered. I felt he didn’t really care about me on a deep emotional/bonding level. And if I did cheat, and he found out, it would be a narcissistic injury, and there would surely be hell to pay. But only because I didn’t ask for his “permission” first. This was the most strangest, abusive relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m thankful I was able to get out in less than 2 years.
After the breakup, I made the decision to go no contact. He’s been hovering for 6 years. He’s contacted me about 6-10 times. I’ve completely ignored him, and any messages I’ve received. His last message said, “I can’t believe you still won’t even talk to me!.” lol
Nope. Never, EVER, will I talk to you again. lol. What a wanker…
There ainβt that much Loneliness in the world to ever get back with a narcissist. Iβve learned to love myself through this process. Being with them is a learning process. Now itβs over keep loving yourself and donβt get weak always be strong.
I’d rather be alone than to wonder when he’s going to strike again & cheat.
You should see the picture I have of a real demon staring at me…she’s a narc.
Best analysis of being with a Narc – Being with a narcissist is like eating a nectarine rotting from the inside out. You take a bite of this seemingly normal nectarine but your overwhelmed with the sweetest thing youβve ever tasted(LOVE BOMB). You donβt even bother to look at the fruit, you just keep eating uncontrollably. As you start to get closer to the core you taste something a little off, a little bitter, but you keep biting anyways. Then all of a sudden you take a bite and itβs disgusting, sour, bitter, and unpleasant. You look and you see itβs black and rotten(DEVALUE)at the core. But instead of discarding it immediately you decide that this cannot be!! Thereβs sweet fruit here still, Iβll eat around the rot(THE HOOVER). You eat around this fruit knowing that at the center itβs rotten and not good for you, but the Taste you were given in the beginning is untouchable, beyond compare. You eat around this rot, and even take nibbles hoping for some sweetness until you realize itβs just a black rotten core that no longer wants you to eat it(THE DISCARD). Now youβre just sitting here with a black empty rotten pit in your hand and realize you now feel how that core does, rotten. Get away from the narcs ppl, they will have you searching for that sweet nectar that will never come forever. All you have to do is drop the seed, bury it(NO CONTACT) and move on guys.
U have helped me more than you could imagine and to understand the Narc so much more.. which helped me cope and keep pushing forward without pain. 3 months out w NO CONtact woo Hoo.. Iβm a empathetic Big people pleaser . 7 years and 3 kids he used me cheated and abused me and just played my soft heart Soo bad. Just got a new supply who had 3 kids herself LOL. Hate him and he hurt me so bad the pain is unbearable but Iβm staying no contact no matter what. I just keep teaching myself w research and watching u every time I get down to keep teaching myself what these monsters are. Keep up the great blog and THANK YOU!
They’re Sick. But validated who i figured out he truly was after 10 stolen years.
Iβm trapped in this narcissistic relationship and will never be able to leave it….But just being able to RECOGNIZE and UNDERSTAND whatβs happening is worth so much to me. Thank you.
Found out he was cheating on me a second time. He was Sooooo deceptive..Acting so nice and caring Full of affection all the time..Everyone loved him…Now I know. It’s all an act to suck u in. Will b ed filing for divorce this month and I have Blocked him..Moving On!
When I first met my narc I couldnβt believe how it tried to turn things around on me. I then read up on personality disorders and found this channel. I always knew what it was up-to and stupidly I would play along because it fed me good sex. I do miss itβs funny side. It made me laugh but I could never trust it.
My ex ex ex hovered me after 10 YEARS!
I love being alone now that I have had some distance from the demon.
The best revenge is living your life, happy and moving on.
Mine has cat-fished me several times, sent me gifts, messaged me through third parties, and is using his kids to spy on me. It’s like, just be gone, I’m happy, healthy, and dating. Be gone, cockroach! Craziness!
In the beginning of the breakup I would of answered …βI would want to be back with my narcβ…but now after 8 months with myself … I chose ME!
My narcissist, told me he wasnβt loyal, he would tell me and give me signs, and I still continue. I also found text messages from a woman who he had an affair with 10 yrs ago!! She was 20 at the time he was mid 40s!! Gross! I know he meant for me to find those text messages, so I would be dramatic.
It was training! This was maddening, I wish I could fully get out.
This is amazing and quite acute the amount of damage negative relationships such as we have all gone through can cause… and just when we think we might have a handle on it we noticed that there are other areas that need attention….just like what the story you told about the person saying they would rather be with a narcissist and be alone I can’t say that I completely subscribe to that but I have had those thoughts. The Mostly because of people like yourself my man and my inner strength I continue to recover and strengthen myself.
I can’t say thank you enough you are a good person for what you were doing and at the very least you helped some guy…name is Kagi.
The narc’s heart. Nothing’s colder than that…lol.
I’m terrified of getting into relationship! I feel like I’m a Narc magnet! Every time a guy shows interest all I can think of is what’s his game…
I just went through a month of love bombing with an extreme Narcissist. It’s amazing how much they have in common. I almost fell for it but when I challenged him by not checking in…..he dropped me…
“Come back with conditions” Soooo True! I went back once. Never again. Nope.
I come here to this blog for therapy, and see a counselor I feel comfort knowing that I’m not the only one who was suckered punched!
This is one of the best analysis I ever heard about them.
Omg the stare! I saw my ex narc do that to me. He did it a few times. Then right before he discarded me he was staring. So creepy.
Thank u for being here for me.
I was married to one for 10 years. and you are really helping me see myself. I keep attracting narcs. Although I’m getting better at seeing them but still get hurt cuz i continue to let my guard down. But recently had to break up with a guy i was dating cuz when it came to my birthday he was a no show which was the first red flag. Cuz it didn’t match with his behaviour. He was always calling me texting back and right on time. Then Boom. I was really hurt but realized what was happening and realized I dodged another narc.
Thank you for this, I understand this all too well. Narcs are the lowest form of life on earth and the biggest tricksters. They target the strongest and the most empathetic. They target us because we are good people.
I appreciate your encouragement about the stuff that shows up..and the opportunity to heal it. Thank you.
So happy with getting reacquainted with my softer side.
I smile a lot and feel great!
He’s gone and I’m done.
Yeah I know that evil stare.
First Drama reaction,,
But afterwards,,
You just
“Fueled-Up”
Their Tank.
Hi all, my narc never appreciated the time effort and money I put into the relationship. I ended up hooking up with someone else right after the discard. She just hated it, just went right off when she found out.
The hardest part of the battle is being ganged up on. Their flying monkey’s can be relentless.
Thank you!
Very helpful. I am creating a “new me.” Boundaries, loving myself, standing firm!
The way I fixed ”respond versus react” was to break up. Then I no longer had to do either! ha.
I’ve learned a narcissist is an emotional leech, parasite.. so never respond with emotion…respond the way they do….Emotionless.
Blame, shame, guilt — fear, obligation and guilt/”FOG”
Hi Empire Life, they (Narcs) hurt people for fun and amusement out of boredom. They could have the greatest most spoiled lives and still attack others because they get away with it. If you assume they are wounded and hurting, you are going to let them walk all over you. There is no wound, they yoke you in with your sympathy. You need to be as mean as they are or meaner to get rid of them, not nice.
If they are jealous as in envious, how does that give them a right to destroy you? It is just out of nowhere for you being okay or doing well. You can’t change that. Sometimes they get in life and force you to respond also. Feeling sorry for them, making excuses for them, understanding them, that is all response. These people pretend to be human when they aren’t towards you.
It is the true end of this whole society that these people can run rampant. The more they are coddled and accommodated, the worse it gets.
I was the toxic person in the relationship…it helped me realize that i needed to walk away from my “partner”. Just as much for their sake as my own. I was causing them so much pain and once i realized i was the problem i realized i had to leave so that they could be as happy as they deserved to be and so i could work on myself and my issues and hopefully one day be as happy as I deserve to be..Thank you for your blogs!
I just have to said thank you for your words it’s being so helpful for me…
This responding is so hard. They push your red buttons so well.
I am still working on this with family members.
Mahalo Empire Life, I needed to hear your words of wisdom.
I wish I knew how to fix myself codependency and all…I DONT KNOW HOW TO COMPLETELY HEAL.
Manipulation = insecurities
I started to say “NO” that was the beginning of the end…I got real good at saying no!!
We stay because we miss that person we fell in love with. We like getting treated good and we stay because we have hopes that things are going to change and it not easy to leave especially if you have kids with person. I wish I had the strength to leave.
“I’m sorry you feel that way” is a classic Narcissistic apology…
Yes I also have dreams. And like others, I want to know how long this will go on for and how to deal with it.
Every time I would react they would seem to glow or get turned on. It’s them feeding off of my energy that makes them feel better. Now I’m realizing what their game is, don’t react, don’t give them pleasure of knowing they’ve hurt you. Thanks for the clarification.
Tearing up reading this.
I’m able to spot a narc without even getting involved with them. Still I struggle to release that energy after a conversation with them.
OMG! Eye opener. Thank you! It explains an awful lot!
Feels like you are talking exactly about my ex.
Don’t waste your life fighting a toxic partner.
Run for the hill.
Start over.
When I left him, I realized or at least thought I did love him at this time I wasn’t aware he was a narcissist!
Went through this exact thing with my ex. He still to this day uses triangulation with my mother. I wish she was able to see it for what it is!
Yep, I WAS always my narcs backup supply (the back burner) – and here I thought I was grade A supply…lol??!! Goes to show you, he’s really insecure that he needs so many different supplies…
I had a dream of one the other day I choked in my dream and started being sick…then I woke up…
but we need to let them go in order to move on, that was never God’s plan it was Satan’s temptation lust not love.
I’ve been in all these situations, I’m tired of being their sap.
Omg the push pull with the new supply. The hovering and the leaving without closure, all so bloody true.
This was my ex, holy snap, I didn’t even realize why I felt so nutty all the time!
Here’s an awesome mom narcissistic answer for you:
When I told my mom a while back that my boyfriend’s family really liked me she replied with, “What’s wrong with THEM?”…and I wonder why I keep getting in relationships with narcissists…
y ex would respond to my telling him I’d accomplished something or was recognized for something by saying, “I’m so proud of you, baby!” in what sounded to me like a really phony tone of voice. It also felt patronizing. It would make me cringe, I did NOT want him to fake-praise me.
They do Hoover, & my ex said too me youβve moved on with your life, as I suppose to waited on him after the toxic relationship ended…He wanted too marry again I said NO.
All of this happened to me- and it was extremely confusing- exhausting and painful- I absolutely did not know what I was dealing with then.
Everything you said has literally been my life for the past 3+ years. Iβm so sick and tired of being sick and tired.
The only way to recovery is to go this way through hell. I really can say now..I am over it. He no longer haunts me in my dreams and I don’t think of him anymore in a romantic way. They are pieces of shit. You will heal!
I’ve made a conscientious decision to go no contact ….I was a narc magnet for sure!
Hate it when my smile is wiped off my face.
Yup lots of bad dreams . The strange thing is. Some of them really happened. Wow.
The ex narc and in-laws.
Ex In laws saw me Friday, 4 years on They were screaming my name across the carpark. I ignored and called the police.
No contact.
The ex narc tried to get a Hoover in by emailing Friday. 3.5 years after the discard. I would not respond even if my life depended on it.
They are pure evil Demons.
Iβm in the U.K.
Avoiding is great advice. Thank you!
I would be alone for the rest of my life then to deal with him I am changing all of my phone numbers and start praising God more than him.
My narc mother glared at me all through my wedding reception and later my grandmothers wake. Bone chilling and unnerving. Every time I had to attend a family event, I had a migraine for two days after.
At last hearing exactly whatβs happened, thank you so much
Hola hola! THEY HAVE ZERO LOYALTY AND HAVE NO CONSCIOUSNESS WHEN IT COMES TO CHEATING WITH OTHERS … ESP THOSE WHO ARE IN RELATIONSHIP OR HAVE CHILDREN AND ARE MARRIED …
THEY LOVE TO DESTROY OTHER FAMILIES AS THEY KNOW IT CAUSES SERIOUS PAIN AND LONGTERM DAMAGE TO OTHERS ESP CHILDREN WHO ARE RELATED TO THESE SITUATIONS !!!!
BE VERY VERY CAREFUL … PURE EVIL NO MATTER HOW GOOD THEY LOOK.
I married my narc twice! I have always worked. I lost my job and he walked out on me! 25 years. I wish I knew about this abuse. I thank God Iβm finally going to be free soon. I believe I was with evil in disguise. Thank you for your help!!! they are liars, users and bullies!
One of my narcs hoovers again after 3 years and again after 12 years!! They never go away!
lovely and this is the most informative vid I’ve seen on triangulation. Thank you!
My narc changed her pitch in her voice when she mocked me in my hall way. ” She said bye by!” In like a child’s voice. Creepy.
Perfect assessment. Iβm getting out of the relationship. Passive aggressive narc.
You hit the nail on the head! I lived this exact thing with my ex.
During the love bomb stage he told me things about his last relationship, which I believe was all a lie. When I asked him about it later he would say I already told you. When I insisted he would tell me but acted like it was too painful to talk about. To me it-unbelievable that these people even exist.
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I can walk through life with confidence now…
I have experienced this. I wish I had known at the time what was happening, but I recognize it more easily now.
I feel like thereβs a spell on me becuz I locked his ass out for a reason, and I know that the person who I adored, who I said was like my twin.. was all a ruse…?? lol Anyways, I had a dream last night about him pursuing another girl and I was just smoking with jealousy and determination to get him back!! At the end of the dream I finally caught him alone – without βHerβ – and got him to admit he was just playing her becuz heβs bored and Iβm the one he misses and he said as long as I cut out the jealousy crap when sheβs around… maybe it wonβt work out with her.. but that if I wanted him to be with me then Iβd better be ready to have his child, AND have a plan in place for how Iβm going to make us lots of money… I woke up thinking like I donβt wanna kid right now but Iβll DO ANYTHING!! what has he done to me?? In real life Iβve been desperately trying to find a replacement to 1) forget him and 2) to show off and make him see what a fool he was. We were only living together for a month (found out that during that time heβs been βrecruitingβ a younger chick for 7 weeks!!! ) everything youβve said is spot on.
I have a sister with narcissistic traits and just lived through several of these things at the holidays! From the fake out, to the ghosting, to the one up and the little red riding hood. Always condescending and angry but denies the behavior when confronted and then turns it around and makes it about me.
My guess: The narcissist will LOSE THEIR MIND if they found out you were cheating and then inform you that it doesnβt even matter because theyβve been cheating this whole time so TAKE THAT!
The relationship equivalent of βyou canβt fire me cuz I QUIT.β Disgusting!
constant reminder of realizing what great freedom I OWN…
Yes! I completely agree Iβm so happy I am so over my relationship, I have purged all my feelings of anger and healed myself. I know now that it wasnβt my fault!!
I love this community, peeps looking out for peeps.
What a nice way to live! Funny when you become educated they change their tune once again!
Anyone who decides to leave a Narcissist is an incredibly strong person and should be proud of themselves!
Yes, it is Stockholm Syndrome. I’ve been out of this for 6 months. It’s hard!
The only thing that helped me was asking God for healing going way back into my childhood injuries that set me up for such people as an adult…
Great advice.
It’s them, not you. They want you to stay engaged in any way possible, therefore it’s best to disengage.
I have become co dependent and so non confrontational so I just shut down. Definitely needed to read this.
I’M WITH ME MYSELF & I
LOVING MYSELF MORE & MORE EACH DAY.
I have been no contact for 12 months after I escaped. Being with a narcissist is the same as being alone. I am alone but never lonely, Jesus is with me! So if you arenβt with the narc, thank Jesus for literally saving your life and work on being strong and never ever get involved with a narc again. And if you still rather be with the narc, you need to cry out to Jesus so you will know what true love is!
Wow, trying to heal & leave the narcissist, working everyday.
1. Know who we are dealing with
2. Understand where your wounds are
3. Learn how to mask your emotions. Not allowing the person to see they have upset you. Set boundaries.
4. Learn how to love yourself when someone hurts you. Learn to love yourself through that.
My ex-spouse hated being walked away from. Towards the end of our relationship, he got more aggressive than ever before. That’s also the same time I started standing up for myself and stopped taking his crap. The more emotionally independent and confident I became, the more I learned to “respond” to his abusive tactics rather than react. Which resulted in his attempt to try harder. Eventually, I had to leave cause he would threaten to hurt me if I walked away from his arguments. Of course I walked away anyway because I wasn’t going to allow him to EVER think that I would “bow down” to his threats out of fear. Nope, not for me. I’m aiming to be healthy.
The best weapon is keep silence…donβt say nothing.
I find I am mentally healthier and happier by not having a friendship with any toxic people in my inner circle. Life is too short to spend time and energy with people like that are negative and verbally abusive.
My Narcissist I feel has done everything to me one could and each time has become a learned behavior for me. I now find myself using his tactics against him and flipping the script on him.
I love when you wrote, “crazy will make you crazy” and “unhealthy will make you unhealthy”. Couldn’t agree with you more 100%!
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They (bullies) never stand alone. I am amazed at their ability to recruit. They have an army surrounding them.
The best way to respond, is don’t respond! Drives them crazy!
I like how you explain things.
Malignant toxic people try to destroy empathetic people. Tell it like it is please.
Screw disarming them. Just stay the hell away, and keep them out of your life!
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I don’t believe in changing your whole life to accommodate these people. You can’t baby yourself out of their abuse over and over. You have to find a way to fight back. If they are miserable, it is their own doing. You don’t have to offer them pity and understanding. They want you to waste your life and time dealing with their games. This is like spiritual warfare. Loving yourself is not hurting them, it is giving them more to destroy and try to grab for themselves. Their personalities are complete trash.
I feel like the victims are giving in and the people offering advice are just accommodating them now. This is the wrong direction. If people could stand together against them, they would be defeated. Instead more and more are joining them since they can’t beat them. No one goes after them, everyone just walks away and says oh the poor abused soul is just lashing out. If you really knew them, if you were forced to indirectly deal with them nonstop day after day, you would know that there is nothing that stops them but force.
They will use their charm for the right people and if they want you gone, no matter how you react or respond they will set up a situation to get you gone, if it didn’t work one week the following week they will try again.
At a point in my life where I do not desire to interact with any of these personalities. They’re so distorted, and they do nothing but create massive disappointment and trouble. The truth is — these people need to help themselves.
It has never been okay to be abused, that is why I got out. The truth of the matter is I must take care of what God has entrusted me with.
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I can possibly actually succeed in no contact…
Just split with a narc after finding out he was seeing 3 other women! Feeling so hurt and down, I have lost 20 pounds in weight!
Growing up in an unhealthy way…this has caused me to be a person that don’t know how to respond to other people today.
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The good thing in my situation is that I will never come across him or vice versa because he moved a few states over. That really helps. No hoovers that I know of either.
This is so true and even for the narcissist, inside they are burning. One needs to respond emotionless and short. And remove yourself is the best because now they get nothing and you are in control of you and the situation. After a while you’ll see they will go get the nice person mask to engage you just to get something anything from you but dont be fooled, its temporary and just to see if they can find a new button to push to make you lose yourself. They are unruly children with adult tools of destruction omg! You touch on things in your vids/ communication alot do not spend as much time on and is crucial to knowing yourself and protecting yourself against these people whose reason for being is to cause hurt and dysfunction.
I’m 60 years old and finally found out what a narcissist is today and the rest of my life. Every relationship or friendship I’ve ever had has been people with these traits. I no longer have friends that are broken and need fixing. I left my husband 5 months ago, there’s has been minimal contact -I’ve cut him off completely now, I’m healing and will never accept these behavior traits in my life again.
It took me two months after I left my ex husband to quit responding to this type of behavior and that drove him even more nuts. It was the hardest thing I ever did, to quit responding to him. People didnβt understand. They said I shouldnβt let him get to me. They said I have to control the way I react and I knew that; however it was so hard! I had never encountered something like him before so I didnβt see at first what he was doing. Thankfully itβs over now, 2 years later, he has no power over me anymore, not for a long time.
Narcissists thrive on dopamine, the reward neurotransmitter. If you react to their button pushing, they are rewarded by your response giving them a buzz just like a drug addict gets a buzz when they use.
If they can keep your wounds open by reappearing and messing with your head, you’ll stay useful to them by being easy to use.
The person who abuses, does so because they get something out of it… They get the attention or the ego stroking or whatever… They are willing to do whatever it takes to get that from you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to disengage. It takes two to be in an abusive relationship… the abuser and the abused. If you aren’t one then you are the other.
This brings me to tears. Thank you!!
As time passed I realized you can only control your response to someone you can’t control another person’s behavior.
Exactly, so true!
I was in an abusive marriage and when I started reading to your blogs this year, I realized I was married to an alcoholic narcissist. I left him in Feb 2020. I had no idea what or who I was involved with and your blog helped me and in a way saved my life. thank you so much.
I so want to get closure. But all I end up facing is a person devoid of compassion…
I personally had the same experience. We need to take closure for ourselves. Thank you for being here.
Some people are radiators and some are drains. Go where the light is.
For the Narc – Everybody is merely a means to an end. Instant gratification.
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The egotistical essence of the narc tells ‘true lies’, voluntarily telling you just enough of their misdeeds to get you secure in the fact their screwing you over.
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I never thought of it that way. Black hole indeed. I was so drained I slept every hour I could. I could barely walk most of the time. I was too drained to even worry about it. A year after leaving him I am finally back to a good energy level. That was horrible.
I can forgive the narc if I really need to. But, if it’s not natural for me to simply forgive them… well, I don’t have to and I won’t.
I escaped! You can too!
So fantastic and WOW! So happy to have these injured people out of my life! They love breaking boundaries when you tell them what your boundaries are. I donβt care if itβs family members I release them with prayer. They have already shown me many times who they are and now I can pick it up soooo much faster than I ever have and I love listening to people like you cause you teach us what we didnβt know. When I look back I was a flying monkey to this one family member and believed everything she told me but once I learned about narcs and found out thatβs what she was she then tried moving me into one of her battering monkeys but NOPE!
Wow, love how someone independent of me put it the same way: “they are like children”. Exactly what I also thought about these people.
If I meet my soul mate, it will have to be in a circumstance where I am naturally involved in pursuits that I love and am so unaware of anyone specific because I am so focused on what I’m doing.
This is epic.
Why should we want to narcissist to want us back?
They are children..these narcs.
Pockets of uprising…meat suits. Oh yes.
Thank you for everything! I love praying with you. Weekends are the hardest for me. Amen
Empty meat suits π The description is perfect for narcs!
They are the worst waste of space, they should be thrown out with the garbage, they are of no use, and never to be recycled, they are the pollutants that poison human kind.
As I was praying, and writing in my journal. I had just gotten a word from the Lord about vengeance being the Lord’s, and then you said the same thing ! God used you tonight to confirm a word for me!
Nobody should want to be with anyone already in a relationship.
The world needs this right now. Together we can achieve anything. You are family to me too. Thank you!
You have a gentle pace that is easy to follow and process.
Yes me too 2 marriage’s. That weren’t. Love …but I am. Stronger and wiser. Thank you.
When I was with the ex narc…I was so exhausted! I thought that i had Mono, Adrenal fatigue, sleep apnea… or narcolepsy…5 months no contact…I’m recovering!
I still have nightmares.
100% true!
The more I research and read the more flashbacks come.
Used..
It’s utterly disgusting.
The one that I was with for nearly 45 years would be so stinking nice to people’s faces, though I also heard him hate on people behind their backs quite often!
He’s very often expressed hate for people that had things that he did not, and he always had some kind of excuse for not liking them, which was not valid at all.
Bravo to all the survivors and thrivers. Jesus never leaves us or forsakes us, and came to bless the wounded and hurting who truly want forgiveness. Narcos were admonished and rebuked by Jesus and he then left them alone.
Narcs would cause an argument in an empty room.
Everything they say is for effect, to see how it affects you.
When it doesn’t affect you they are ineffectual.
At first, narcissists behavior seems mysterious, erratic and itβs mind boggling. After acquiring the knowledge, narcissists literally are the most predictable people on Earth. Boring even.
I used to say that I felt like I had a black cloud hanging over my head while I was with the narc. This was before I knew what NPD was. They are a black hole!
I used to say that I felt like I had a black cloud hanging over my head while I was with the narc. This was before I knew what NPD was. They are a black hole!
Those demons want us when we’re up, but when we’re down due to the hell they put us through, then they’re gone. Pure evil! Heartless! Ladies, and gents learn from it, and stay no contact. This story is our testimony. Bless you!
They withhold info from you…Even if revealing that info costs them nothing. Although you might have helped them to the best of your ability without any expectations, and sometimes at considerable personal expense.
The most dangerous thing to do when being with a narc is to think you can through investing your time, love and patience change these people, run!
When you do eventually distance yourself from these people, it will be very clear to you how draining and exhausting it was while with them. Even the periods where you thought you were in a βgoodβ relationship.
βThose of you waiting for a Hoover, youβre waiting for the devil to come backβ. That right there is WORD of TRUTH!! Jezebel is a high ranking intellectual demon. Once you know what youβre dealing with, break the soul ties and FAST and pray to stay away. Jesus said some demons can only be cast out with prayer and fasting!! Beware of this warfare over and on your life.
Narcissists are Black Holes of Need who give nothing in return except grief.
I was warned by my friends and classmates, anyone could see how arrogant and cocky he was, but i was blinded by two weeks of love bombing and some push and pull. At the end, all the people that warned me were right, I wish I had listened to them earlier.
I’m glad this us faith based. It is a spiritual battle, no question.
You will never get healed from narc and jazzy without God. Keep the word in your teachings.
“You weren’t chosen, you were targeted.” BIG difference.
Stay Aware!
This just has to be spiritual. The appearance of being charming, beautiful/handsome, and good. But something is always off from the very beginning it doesn’t ever feel right. Then the mask falls off and you see true evil. It sounds like the description of the devil or how sin can be enticing/”beautiful” but then reveal it’s TRUE evil nature once you’re trapped! I’m convinced this is demonic on a whole other level. Also they often target people who are actually genuinely good and love God.
They come back you club them with a Hoover vacuum until they are unconscious!
Every night I have a scary or upsetting dream because I still feel obligated and responsible for my ex narcβs emotions. Itβs definitely a little PTSD and itβs going to take some time. Just learn to love yourself and self soothe as much as possible. Stay strong! Be the hero in your own story. Iβm learning that myself.
They never loved you nor cared about you, they only loved and cared about what you can do for them. And once theyβve drained you for everything youβve got, they will disappear and move on to another source of supply who is vulnerable enough to give them want they want.
My Narc kept telling me he was too old for me and I was immature…we’re only 2 years age difference…when I thought he might hover, I even prepared worse lines regarding his age if he somehow contact me again. It felt very good.
When you talk to a Narc the only thing they are thinking about is how any of the information could be helpful for them!
The ‘bonding’ with a narcissist is due to them promising the heaven but delivering hell.
That is where we need to get to in regard to our ex narcs! Instead of playing gray rock, we actually need to FEEL gray rock.
MISERY LOVES GOOD COMPANY.
One bad apple in a basket of good apples, will always rot and destroy all the other apples in the basket. Itβs never the opposite.
Mine hoovered from the moment he served me divorce papers and off and on for the next decade.
Narcissist’s think they are GOD and to be worshipped. Soulless creatures. RUN, don’t walk.
In reality they have hate in their hearts…
Omg this is the validation I’ve been looking for. He totally triangulated me right off the bat. 7 years later final fight was over his last ex. He would not let her go.
They destroy you with duality…Smile as they choke you. Laugh with you but are laughing at you.
A narc never wants to know if you’re having a bad day or are going through a hard time because it’s an inconvenience to them and its taking attention away from them. They want to be the centre of attention and get all the supply all the time. I’ve been in the black hole and have ptsd as a result of my ex.
Just say NO to the hover!
Great information!
The narcissist will create their own false reality and drag you in making it feel impossible to get out. They want to keep you in their grasp, redefine you and will do what it takes for you to not wake up to who you were before you met them.
The world needs this right now. Together we can achieve anything. You are family to me too. Thank you.
I tried to warn Supply B. Her response was, βwell he didnβt cheat on ME.β She knew he had a girlfriend and didnβt care. She was quickly discarded, though. Itβs hard to feel sorry for someone like that.
Awesome you made my spiritual connection! You literally are attached to spreading a great message about the narcissist!
Those of your waiting for a hover, you’re waiting for the devil to come back, to trick you again.
When Iβd finally had it and was pouring my heart out, his response was βall I hear is blah blah blah.β Youβre absolutely right; they have no interest in anything you say.
Most people are asleep to what is going on. Not just to the fact there are narcissists but to the fact the whole world they are living in is really a spiritual battle.
These blogs totally make total sense to me as so much happened in my life that just makes no sense. But, starts making sense once the demonic energy is being taken into account.
Anyone who has you in their life in any capacity should consider themselves BLESSED!
Keep up the good work!
Amazing grace. Loved seeing your transformation! Healing.
Boundaries first! Just like safety first.
Jezebel want show me I’m not good enough again.
They are such time wasters! Looking back over that fake relationship, I was in it all alone.
Lord please give me the strength to love myself so much that I have no room to hate the ex narc.
He would make up stories of things people supposedly said about me…constantly trying to keep me off balance.
For them it’s not about taking and giving, it’s taking and leaving.
Amen my nightmares, and left with him.
When I first met my narcissistic, sociopathic ex boyfriend’s crazy ass family (a lot of them had diagnosed bipolar and cluster B disorders), they told me to run away from him in private. I should have listened but it was only less than a month into our relationship. So many red flags before that one but I was so naive.
Narcs are empty black holes of despair and they ONLY bring sorrow and pain!
Thank you Jesus for being our savior.
Disclosure: you don’t want the narc to want you back, you want them to go away…
The discard was one of the hardest things I’ve ever experienced in my life BUT it was the most important thing to have ever happened to me. It forced me to analyze my life and made me grow. There are things that i still am working on even though it’s almost a year since the breakup. I still need to focus on recovery but I am happy with myself and what Ive accomplished…
Perfectly happy alone with myself.
I bought myself a Dyson, I don’t need any more hoovers.
The thing is I dont want him back I’m just mad at my self for not lessening to my gut feeling…
They will suddenly want you back when they see your success / money.
You’re describing my NARC husband to a T.
We need a retreat with all empaths who have lived through this nightmare. A safe place with no narcissists allowed. I think it would be great just to connect with people that actually are genuine.
Keep up the good work!
Funny it takes being in a relationship with a narcissist to learn to love your own company & not fill a void with people…
My ex narcs mother told me I couldn’t save him he had to save himself! She talked to me on the phone for 5 hours telling me this and that wasn’t right on his part but all the while never really speaking bad of him just pointing out holes in behavior. She said to him right on front of me that he and his kids were so lucky to have me…
I was warned by my whole family, even my deceased husband’s family did not like him and saw right through his fake mask… but I suppose there was too much stupid wax stuck in my ears.
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I feel that Narcs are empty black holes of despair and they ONLY bring sorrow and pain
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The best way I know to get out of that dark state is to stop beating myself up for not getting enough done and to allow myself some breaks once in a while (and to not feel guilty about those either!). I know that the fastest way to get into feeling depressed is to listen to my Inner Mean Girl who tells me what a slacker I am for not getting EVERYTHING done and who for sure tells me what a loser I am for indulging in an occasional Netflix binge. By allowing myself to FEEL my feelings without guilt or shame, the bad ones disappear that much faster. π Thank you for another great blog, Allison!
Thanks for this Allison βthroughout my teens and twenties I was anxious, depressed, and suicidal, and couldnβt understand why it was so hard for me to do things βnormalβ people found easy. I know now that everyone suffers, and mostly we donβt share it publicly, which makes us all feel alone in our pain.
For me, whatβs worked over the years has been:
1) Leaving a Narc relationship. And caring for myself physically. Food, water, sleep, and exercise have to come first.
2) Changing life circumstances to give me a chance to heal (leaving school, quitting jobs I couldnβt handle, ending relationships, moving to a better environment, etc.) This is painful but necessary.
3) Morning pages Γ la The Artistβs Way
4) Lots of soul-searching re: my values and purpose. When times are tough, itβs much easier to keep moving if you know your why.
So much love to everyone whoβs strugglingβyou are not alone!
To say this blog I needed this and needed to learn more about thee red flags, to say it was helpful is an understatement. These last few months have been some of the hardest. My husband and I both lost our good jobs and in the same month we found out I was pregnant with our first child. Meanwhile, weβre both hustling to make the best of our situation, and I continue to chip away at the business Iβve been building over the last 3 years, though with this pregnancy I sense the urgency and pressure now to have it together asap! Whatβs been so hard for me is the expectation of my performance. I am an overachiever, and being pregnant has been really hard with all the symptoms and mood swings β I feel I have no control over my body. My husband is exceptionally supportive β consistently telling me to rest and not over do it and yet I continue to put on a smile and push myself. I feel there is such power in letting go and surrendering β though society wants us to think the opposite. Thanks for sharing your mantra.
Thank you for being you, I appreciate you so much β been following you for 9 years now. Hugs to you and the entire team. Kat x
Hi Allison, thanks for deep-diving into this. We put so much pressure on ourselves to always be at our best. I run, watch what I eat and what media I take in. My mental nutrition is as important as my food nutrition. And, make time for meditation and stillness. Iβve been through depression and difficult times too. Fake it till you make it is not sustainableβ¦face it till you make it is, but to rest a while is okay. Much love and appreciation for all you do! Sue
You can always consider βthe universeβ as a βhigher power.β The universe controls gravity, the movement of atoms and energy, all the things that are beyond human control. So you can choose to surrender the things you canβt control to the universe and see where the universe and its natural laws will take you from there. I think the surrender itself is what frees you. And youβre never alone while youβre part of the universe that contains every other living and non-living thing around you. Weβre all part of one cosmic network, so to speak.
Start slow and simple. All belief systems, at their core, essentially point back to the same one Higher Power. Within you, around you, and a part of you. Send out a prayer within to be guided toward the path or the βhowβ thatβs right for you. [βWhat you seek is also seeking you.β -Rumi] β€οΈ
But what about when things are moving a little too quickly? In a lot of cases, it’s possible to just pump the brakes a littleβbut in others, it’s possible that the person you’re getting involved with has a narcissistic personality, and they’re using you to fuel their intense need for attention.
Yes, that’s a great point, that is definitely a red flag.
Itβs so important to talk about this, as itβs so easy to try and compare your inside to other peopleβs outside, and that just leads to pain! Low feelings are also much more common recently it seems, the ever-present pandemic background stress has chipped away at the resiliency of even the most chipper individuals.
Iβve found that the methods that help me can vary β putting on upbeat music that makes me want to move can be massively powerful for me, but there are still times when it just washes over me and like a submerged boulder, it fails to move me.
Other things that have helped;
βJust for today Iβllβ¦β giving yourself permission to not do something to the level you might otherwise want to. That might be βIβll do 5 mins of gentle movementβ (rather than a workout you had planned), or βIβll not force myself to get dressed, and instead spend the day in my PJsβ (making the kind decision stops the βugh.. I should but I caaaantβ feelings and any βbut if I let myself not be βonβ thatβs the beginning of a slippery slope!!β
Iβve also found tiered goals to help, so the desired outcome of βbe clean after wakingβ might have the Gold goal of a full routine, with self-care that feels luxurious and indulgent, the Silver goal is a basic wash and spruce. The Bronze goal is running a baby wipe over your face. This way you have more potential to achieve your desired outcome and itβs less overwhelming (and if you succeed at the baby wipe, that momentum might help you have more success with other things during the day (like getting dressed!).
I also found it helpful sometimes to think βwill I remember this day in 10 years’ time?β Or βwill my mood and activities today matter in 10 years’ time?β Which (unless caught in catastrophizing!) can really help take the edge of the feeling of being doomed/lost/paralyzed.
I love all of the other comments β and Iβd like to offer to build a community of support as an incredibly valuable resource. Iβve found that opening up vulnerable conversations with friends showed me who was ready to have a deeper connection, and over time those relationships have deepened to a network of βfr-amilyβ tighter and more supportive (and real) than I could imagine. Most of these women have done some deep work and therapy themselves and itβs beautiful to journey together with them, rather than that feeling of being on the outside looking in on someone elseβs life (which can easily lead to depression and anxiety for me). In terms of specific therapies β Iβve absolutely loved gestalt therapy and bioenergetics! Very physical and body-based.
1. Do a jigsaw puzzle: the sparked life metaphors are infinite and allow me to focus on something else than my depression.
2. Color mandalas: choosing what range of colors work best with the patterns reminds me how much beauty I can bring to my world and again, allows me to focus on something else than my anxiety.
These are two of the easiest things I can do to surrender the reins of my life to the Divine Feminine that guides me always. I hope I have been able to help someone find relief and comfort, inspire them to just beβ¦I also swim, read, write while listening to music, to birdsong, to vidoes of my loved ones laughing, walking instead of driving, being outside on my balcony to just observe and listenβ¦but I am aware that not everybody is as privileged as I am, so the first two mechanisms to achieve some peace during the day are easier to come by! Gracias gracias gracias Empire Life for this just-in-time message I opened today in my mailbox!
Thanks for talking about this as it normalizes mental health and handling unhealthy relationships.
I had anxiety that would escalate during conversations at vendor events, it was my mind and body hitting exhausted states after repeated actions. Knowing where and when this might happen has been challenging to figure out. Itβs a sensory overload thing. Itβs also a change in me from more of an extrovert to an introvert and not getting hung up on what or who I used to be and focusing instead on who I am now.
To stop or manage these anxiety cycles (which to be honest feel like seizures) I had to break apart the routines entirely; not skipping meals before more, more water throughout events, breaks every few customers, and hiring help to do part of the bigger shows. I am now focused on changing my business structure to accommodate fewer vendor events and feel really positive that that control will also make this overall process more comfortable.
THANK YOU for addressing medication as a modality that can be helpful. There is NO shame in that potential life-saving game!
Daily journaling practice, in which I check in with how Iβm feeling, express gratitude, and clarify my intention for the day has become an absolute ANCHOR and source of nourishment for me.
(Kris Carr provided the prompt and structure for me, in a YouTube video that I think was called βThe Key to My Successβ).
When Iβm feeling anxious or down, as cliche as the gratitude practice may sound, I find that my experience aligns with the research: it really does matter and help to still find the tiniest shreds of beauty and blessings and intentionally put my attention there, so that I donβt get completely overwhelmed by the swamp of challenging conditions or negative perceptions.
Hugs to us all: these are HARD times.
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Iβve found that reaching out to my mum and grandma who are both angels now, really helps. It was a life-changer for me because I discovered so many issues I have are not just me, they are a recognizable pattern of trauma survivor behavior. So now, when I dissociate and leave the present, I use methods Iβve learned through Body Mind Centring in order to βget back into my bodyβ so, I do things like: pressing my back against a chair, pressing my tongue against the roof of my mouth, stroking my face, these all bring me back into the present, I have choices to get myself to safety.
Empire Life blog readers, and othersβ¦
You are not alone. So not alone. And, Allison, you have no idea how timely this article was for me! Iβve really been struggling too. Iβve wanted to throw in the towel on my whole business because I am so discouraged. I think my partner might be a Narc and thinking about divorce. I needed this reminder. While faith and higher power have been central in my life in the past, Iβve struggled with that as well these last few years. I need to return to those core beliefs and surrender. Because none of us is alone in this struggle. Here in cloudy, snowy Minnesota in March, it can be a particularly difficult time of year for my mood. I need to remember that it wonβt always be this way, turn on some dance music, pump up the volume and move my body. That often helps at the moment. Also, yesterday I reached out to a support group I have on Facebook and was honest about how I was feeling. A few people chimed in to remind me that I was not alone. Thank you, Empire Life, for reaching out to this community so that we could all benefit from Allison’s response as well as share with you that you are not alone.
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That’s just what I needed to hear today! Last night I was feeling a strange feeling of really off it was a shooting level of anxiety… My thoughts were Iβll never be able to figure this out and live my dream. I woke up feeling really off but when I read your tweetable about surrender that which I could no longer carry that was just what I needed to feel peace and to realize Iβm not alone in this, and that I can have healthy relationships. Thank you!
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The best way for me to quickly get unstuck from an unhealthy and change my mood is to WALK in beautiful nature. If more energy shift is needed, I remind myself I am not alone (divine support) and ask for guidance recalling myself as well I will find solutions. If more needed, be very gentle, and give me the time I need to recover inspiration without judgment.
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I have overcome getting out of an unhealthy narc relationship. It took me years to get out of the money mind I grew up with and I had the head in the sand for most of my life! I finally started changing a few years ago: still have some way to go but I feel much better and am more aware of where my money is going.
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This is refreshingly funny. There are so many things in my head that she was saying here & I had to laugh because of how deeply true they are. I like that she said to tap into strength in the form of grace. Grace is βmuscularβ & βrobustβ completely true!
The massive turning point in this blog for me was seeing someone be able to think beyond their thought, belief, etc.
Also when you lose faith in humanity recall someone who you respect!!
A big takeaway for me is trying not to prejudge and bucketize the good and bad. Seek first to understand and donβt take it personally. Sometimes you canβt fix stupidity.
What a fantastic blog article it makes you not only think about your own perspective on issues but how to just walk away from those toxic conversations that really mean nothing or just feeding into otherβs negative attitudes. A very thoughtful and enlightening blog article about who has been through her own journey with Narcs too. Thank you Allison for once again bringing a much-needed topic to be discussed.
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Really great blog article, thank you so much for sharing, it helps enormously to know that even you have dark times, but even more important, that youβve shared the way you deal with it to lift your spirits. Iβm definitely going to try these!
Daily journaling practice, in which I check in with how Iβm feeling, express gratitude, and clarify my intention for the day has become an absolute ANCHOR and source of nourishment for me.
Here in cloudy, snowy Minnesota in January, it can be a particularly difficult time of year for my mood. I need to remember that it wonβt always be this way, turn on some dance music, pump up the volume and move my body. That often helps at the moment. Also, yesterday I reached out to a support group I have on Facebook and was honest about how I was feeling. A few people chimed in to remind me that I was not alone. Thank you, Allison, for reaching out to this community so that we could all benefit from Empire Life’s response as well as share with you that you are not alone.
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Sending you the biggest, warmest hug across the ocean and I hope you had an amazing day. π₯³π
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let alone the content!
Weird things about me are plenty
but I cannot compete with this blog haha! π
Keep doing the great job you do! The Narcs will be repelled by us in being ourselves!
I have so much weirdness and one of my faves is to blurt out one-liners that I would never say in real life while dancing a move I never would in real life. The best is doing it next to my bf who has no clue what’s about the happen. The surprised look on his face is priceless, especially Narcs really hate when I am totally myself!
So true that you don’t need to fit in to prosper in side hustle entrepreneurship. I love feeling the inspo here! π
Keep spreading positivity.
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